What if we had special glasses that could look past what people are saying or how they are behaving and see what is going on inside? Why are they acting that way? Why did they say what they said? Is it because they have not had a meal for a long time? Are they ill? Has there been a tragedy in their life? Are they just having a bad day? If we knew the why behind the what, would our response and attitude change?

Well, unfortunately we don’t have special glasses like that. But, we can consider a shift in perspective and giving people the benefit of the doubt. Rather than saying, “He was wrong and mean and I’ll put him in his place.” Try, “I wonder what is going on in his life? Why is he acting out? I’ll show him some kindness, compassion and patience instead.” Rather than show the person how wrong they are, smile and give a hug. Hold your breath and even more important, your tongue. Better to show empathy than have regret for putting someone in their place. Even if your kindness isn’t reciprocated, you will feel good about it. Respond with kindness.